Showing posts with label power. Show all posts
Showing posts with label power. Show all posts

Monday, May 14, 2018

Press On, Dear Sisters



Sermon Ephesians 1:15-23 May 13, 2018 Ascension/7th Sunday Easter

Press On, Dear Sisters

It is always a joy to hear uplifting words of praise. Today’s letter from Paul to the Ephesians is one such letter. Listen to the words and let us see how God moves within us…

Some of you who were around in the 1970s might remember a pop singing group called the Carpenters. They had a song out that was a real hit. It became the go to song for couples to have sung at their wedding. Marriage was just the beginning, it was the kick-off to a long life together.
The words went like this: 
We've only just begun to live
White lace and promises
A kiss for luck and we're on our way
(We've only begun)

Before the risin' sun, we fly
So many roads to choose
We'll start out walkin' and learn to run
(And yes, we've just begun)

Sharing horizons that are new to us
Watching the signs along the way
Talkin' it over, just the two of us
Workin' together day to day
Together

And when the evening comes, we smile
So much of life ahead
We'll find a place where there's room to grow
(And yes, we've just begun)

Sharing horizons that are new to us
Watching the signs along the way
Talkin' it over, just the two of us
Workin' together day to day
Together


Paul’s letter to the Ephesians is that kind of song. It is a hymn, proclaiming the death, resurrection, and now the ascension of Christ as only the beginning for the followers of Jesus, for the church. The cross might be where Jesus died, but the hope of people of faith lies, not in his death, but in the fullness of his being-his birth (his incarnation), death, resurrection, & ascension. Paul writes it’s the future hope and the present reality of those who believe.

Paul makes what we might call a ‘prayer wish’ for the readers of this letter. He make a prayer wish for the eyes of their heart to be opened, for the riches of Christ’s glorious inheritance be among the saints, and for the immeasurable power of Christ who fills all in all be in them.

I find that prayer wish so powerful and so comforting. Isn’t that what we all would like for ourselves and for those we love?

In the story of our life and our journey of faith we are met with crossroads and as we enter into the unknown of those experiences, we discover it is a new beginning and the words, ‘we’ve only just begun’ echo through our first few steps of this new adventure.

The words of this letter to the Ephesians are timeless. We need those prayer wish words of Paul to fill our lives. 

How do we find answers to those age old questions that linger in our heads, or perhaps our children ask us and we have no clue how to answer. One such question about our future hope is, “If all of us go to heaven when we die and people from the beginning of time are there, including gramma and grampa, isn’t it really crowded; how would we find them?”

It sounds like a funny question that we would brush off-because who among us knows the answer? But, I’m sure we’ve all wondered about things such as these. The questions that come to us that stump us, "Did Adam and Eve have belly buttons?"

It’s the sort of question mothers and fathers get as they are trying to tuck the children in to bed at night. It’s the sort of question we struggle with as we come home from the funeral of a friend. We have a need to be comforted about the future and we have a need to be assured here and now about our present life.

I think women through the ages have given us a ray of sunshine as we witness how they have coped and been strengthened through all kinds of adversity.

In the book Dance of the Dissident Daughters, Sue Monk Kidd describes her awakening to the God she thought she had known all her life. She enters into a journey about her faith, religion, and life as a woman. She becomes shocked, disenchanted, fearful, and finally at peace with her discovery of who God is in her life. 

She recognizes the power of women to stick together through so much. She says this, Solidarity is identifying with one another without feeling like you have to agree on every issue. It’s unity, not uniformity. It’s listening without rushing in to fix the problem. It’s going deeper than typical ways of talking and sharing—going down to the place where souls meet and love comes, where separateness drops away and you know these women because you are these women.”

 She urges women to “Press On, Dear Sisters” Press on in life, press on in faith, press on in all that encompasses women, press on through all things and know that no matter what, we are not alone, we will stick together.

The stories of the strength of women in Scripture are filled with those who have led a people, who have fed a crowd, and who have challenged God, and carried God.

But, this prayer wish from Paul is for the church men and women, old and young, rich and poor, of all nations and tribes. Paul encourages them through this prayer for insight and vision. At every crossroad of our life we need the eyes of our hearts to be opened.
Our hearts are seat of knowledge and wisdom. May the days, months and years ahead begin with the eyes of our hearts opened so we can have the hope of our calling; so we can experience the riches of Christ’s inheritance; be filled and live with the immeasurable greatness of his power.

On this Mother’s Day I think of all my sisters in the world.

I think of all the women who are powerhouses of strength,
forces to be reckoned with;
who have challenged and been challenged in the workforce,
who experienced motherhood, daughterhood, and sisterhood.

I think of the prayer warriors,
the casserole makers,
the card writers,
the stay at home woman,
the go to work woman,
the everything to everyone woman.
I think of how as women,
daughters of God,
we’ve only just begun,
and yet,
we’ve been so far.
And I pray the prayer wish
for all of you
as Paul did
and I say Press On, Dear Sisters,
Press On.
Amen.

Resources: NIB Ephesians; Dance of the Dissident Daughter; Working Preacher.

Thursday, October 13, 2016

It is NEVER OK-KNOW THE SIGNS:Domestic Violence

KNOW THE SIGNS:Domestic Violence
THIS is more important today than ever before.

We must read and know that abuse is still prevalent and very much in the public conversation today. So we are very pleased to be sponsoring the Spaghetti Dinner to raise awareness for the Coalition.

This week we will hold a spaghetti dinner to help raise funds for the Eastern Shore Coalition Against Domestic Violence at Naomi Makemie Presbyterian Church on Friday October 14 from 5-7 pm.

It is an honor to serve a congregation that puts the issue of domestic violence as an important and necessary mission of the church.

So as we approach our dinner tomorrow night let's review the signs and symptoms of domestic violence. Let's understand the destructive patterns of violence against women. What is abuse against women? 

Abuse against women is physical and emotional. Physical abuse occurs in unwanted sexual advances, rape, assault, and many other forms of touching a woman's body without her permission.
The book "The Emotionally Abused Woman" by Beverly Engel MFCC is an excellent resource for women, men and anyone in relationships with other human beings.This article is filled with information from her book.

Here is a quick list of some types emotional abuse that women suffer:

  • Domination-men who dominate women need to be in charge, and they seek to control every detail of a person's life actions. They often resort to threats to get their way.
  • Verbal assaults-this behavior involves berating, belittling, criticizing, screaming, blaming and using sarcasm and humiliation. This is particularly dangerous because these assaults demean and diminish the woman or any human being for that matter. It is dangerous because it is difficult for women to heal from this abuse. 
  • Abusive expectations-unreasonable demands placed on a woman and no matter what the woman does it is never good enough. She is subjected to constant criticism.
  • Emotional blackmail-this is a powerful form of manipulation. It is the conscious or unconscious coercion of a person to have them do what this person (man) wants by playing on fear, guilt, or compassion. 
  • Unpredictable responses-the abuser has unpredictable outbursts and inconsistent responses. Mixed signals are continuously sent and the abused is never sure of what triggers the outbursts.
  • Constant criticism-the insidious nature of consistent, continuous criticism that cumulates and eats away at the persons self worth and self confidence. 
  • Character assassination-mistakes are blown out of proportion. There does not seem to be a level of severity-burnt toast is as bad as a burnt house; past failures are always brought to light. Humiliation is the constant game that is played.
  • Gaslighting-purposely creating an atmosphere through a variety of insidious techniques to make a person doubt herself, her memory, her perceptions, even her very sanity. This person denies what he has said or done. He will tell her that she is lying. He will avoid responsibility for his actions and tell her she is exaggerating. 
  • Constant chaos-continuous chaos is the norm. The abuser seems to have an addiction to drama. Arguments are started for what appears to be no reason. It seems the person is adept of keeping the relationship and all that is around him in constant crisis. 
  • Sexual harassment-unwelcome, unwanted, sexual advances, or physical or verbal conduct of a sexual nature. 
Friends NONE of this is OK!!

These predators have behaviors and women need to be informed how to spot them:
Check out this list on "How to Spot an Abuser"
  • Poor impulse control
  • Low self-esteem
  • Selfishness and narcissism
  • Needy and demanding
  • Poor social skills
  • Alcohol and drug abuse
  • history of being abusive
  • history of mental illness
  • emotionally dependent
  • antisocial behavior
  • need for power and control
  • conspiracy theorists 
We can spot the abuser and we can learn the M.O. of the abuser: 
  • Victor: abusive expectations, and domination
  • The Napoleon complex:the need to ridicule, and behave in anyway necessary to shame, blame and put the other down in order to make themselves look good.
  • The Bulldozer: these people mow over everyone in their path. they will tear others down and take them down with them. These people are power hungry and will do and say anything to get ahead. 
  • The controllers: these people have much of the above combined in order to have and maintain the control they have over another. Threatening to the point that others are afraid is real and again also very dangerous.
  • Sex addiction: this person pleads or demands sexual contact frequently and becomes angry, hostile and manipulative in order to get what he wants. 
  • The anti-social personality: these people do not live by the same set of rules and values as anyone else lives by. They create their own desires, their own agenda and they blame everyone around them for their behavior. They are incapable of loyalty to others. 
  • The Misogynist: complete lack of respect for anyone other than they are. Hatefulness towards women by men, This hatefulness permeates throughout all interactions with women by making fun of them, by seeing them as sex objects, even to the point of becoming sexually violent towards them.
  • The Blamer: they are NEVER wrong. they are incapable of apology. 
  • The Destroyer: The goal to destroy their victims.
  • Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde: This person is gentle and kind and in an instant turn to rude, crude, angry, hurtful behavior.
If any of you have ever experienced behavior towards you in this way then you have been a victim of abuse. Know the signs and know it is NEVER OK! And the abuser must be stopped.